​Mother’s Day is usually a time of celebration, but for some the time can be filled with pain and sorrow. Not everyone will be buying flowers or going to brunch with the family.

For those who have experienced the death of a child or a mother, for those struggling with infertility, or for those who have a difficult relationship with their mother, here are some suggestions for getting through this difficult time.

 On grieving the death of your mother

  • Acknowledge your loss and the difficulty this day brings
  • Don’t try to minimize the loss
  • Complete a ritual: light a candle, visit the gravesite
  • Do something positive in memory of your mother or an activity that will connect you to her
  • Plant a living memorial
  • Experience self-care; pamper yourself
  • Buy a mother’s day card and write the sentiments you would like to express
For children grieving their mother

  • Let them know it’s okay to miss mom and cry if they need to
  • Read them stories and books mom used to read
  • Have them make a Mother’s Day card or write a letter
  • Reminisce together by looking at photo albums and listening to music
  • Engage in activities that mom used to like to do
  • Create memories of mom (make a scrapbook, plant a tree, organize a fundraiser)
  • Encourage creative and active play
For women grieving their children

  • Give yourself permission to grieve. Cry when you need to cry
  • Tell and re-tell the story. Use your child’s name
  • Reach out to others. Seek out a grief counselor or a support group
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Create your own memorial
  • Celebrate your child by lighting a candle or planting a perennial flower
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